No Should Mean No For Young Children

I have raised 3 children with my husband and there were many times through the years that our answer ‘no’ was challenged.  As hard as it was on these occasions to stick to our word and mean it, we did.  It all comes back to me each year as I begin another year teaching Kindergarten with new Kindergartners.  They don’t know me, I don’t know them but personalities do not take very long to figure out in a classroom setting.  Children who are being told no about a behavior that they wish to do, challenge me to see if I really mean it.  I do!  25 children in the classroom means that appropriate behavior practices must be in place before active learning can begin.  Children show me very quickly who challenges their parents at home and who follows the rules.  I see it repeatedly throughout the month of September as the rules of our classroom begin to evolve and the children completely understand that there is a teacher in charge.  By the time a 5 year old gets to Kindergarten there is much to correct if the child does not take the word no seriously.  We use the word no for safety reasons,  playing with toys at an inappropriate time in the school day, bothering a friend, interrupting the teacher, yelling out when it is quiet learning  time, etc. etc.  Help your child learn to behave in all situations by enforcing the word no at home and meaning it.  You are your child’s parent, not their friend and it is your job to teach your child to accept the rules of not only your home, but other social situations where acceptable behavior is expected.


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  1. mary louise obrien

    KInderg. teacher claire. Enforcing the word No reminds me of a similar parental situation. I was told in a workshop one time that if a parent asks a child to do a chore or to come ,often the child does not do as told. Then the parent continues to repeat the request sometimes l0 times. Why should the child respond at the first request when he/she knows that there will be maybe l0 more requests coming and they can stall. This often gives them a few more minutes to play with their favorite toy or stall going to bed. So my suggestions to parents is to state your request and have ‘time out’ or other consequences when your child doenst respond the FIRST time. After awhile most parents realize they arent yelling several times to get their children to act. Parenting isnt easy but it pays off in time. m. o.

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